Alright, male species, listen up. I've found that no matter how smooth you operate, you still need a few pointers. You still do some stuff that mystifies women. Stuff that I'm sure you don't even realize that you do. I intend, with this lovely little post, to help you transition into an even smoother Casanova.
Tip 1: No one knows you're interested unless you make a move.
Now, this should be a no brainer, but I see guys make this mistake all the time. Guys sometimes expect a girl to just realize that he's interested in her. While talking to a girl and flirting are good first steps, if you don't follow through and talk to her more than once or twice, she'll either think that you lost interest or had none to start with.
Tip 2: There is more to making the first move than just introducing yourself.
While making your interest known is a very important part, keeping up communication with said girl is an even bigger step. Like stated earlier, talking to her once or twice just doesn't cut it. Most girls are still in the mode of "I want him to make the first move." The part that we leave out of this statement is that there is more than one first move.
Somewhere between the invention of the computer and iPods, the female definition of "the first move" evolved. Yes, we expect you to introduce yourself to us, but we also expect you to ask for our number, find us on facebook, be the first to text us (this includes not just once, but being the first to text for the first few days), call us before we even think about calling you, and be the first to ask us on dates.
Girls worry about this stuff. We're afraid that if we're the first to do any of these things, that it'll scare guys away. All because we've been taught that guys make the first move. We don't want to be seen as clingy or as if we'd get attached/involved too fast.
But if the guy doesn't act soon, girls have a pattern they'll follow. First they'll wonder if they picked up on the wrong signals. They'll ask all their friends what they think, over analyzing every exchange that passed between her and the guy.
Next, depending on the advice of her friends (which is normally along the lines of "If he hasn't called/texted/ facebooked you by now, then he isn't interested. You can do better anyway.") She’ll go through a period of dressing her absolute best, taking more time than normal to make herself look good. She'll do this in an attempt to make herself feel better about the guy not calling. But also in the secret attempt that if she does see him that he'll remember why he talked to her in the first place.
After this brief period (and it's always brief, cause it take way too much energy to look your best every single day) she'll move on. Exhausted from looking her best every day, and determined that the guy wasn't worth it to begin with, she'll then return to her previous way of life. The way of life that doesn't include a guy that doesn't know the new first move rules.
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Tip two took more time than I thought it would. I'll come back later with more tips. Maybe one time per post next time? Just maybe.
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